Things to keep in mind when you are flying solo on V-Day
Solo on V-Day? It’s okay to be sad on Valentine’s day. It can be a hard day and the best you feel like you can do is survive. You are not alone. Many people are single on Valentine’s day for all different reasons. So whether you like being single or not when you find yourself unattached and having feelings on Valentine’s day keep these things in mind.
What is this date actually celebrating?
Though it’s become about celebrating couples and relationships that’s not what St. Valentine is known for. He isn’t a famous martyr because of all the love he had for his significant other and the truth is that there are actually several differing reports about Valentine and what he is actually known for. Despite the origins that are muddled, history has come to equate “Valentines” as a symbol of love and affection. It can be helpful to remember this as it allows for a more general celebration of love and the people you cherish like friends, family and yourself instead of solely focusing on significant others.
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Are you making Valentine’s Day difficult?
Why’s the 14th of February so important?
Well in short, it’s not. The date that Valentine’s Day is celebrated on is not a federal holiday, some countries like Bolivia celebrate Valentine’s in September, and some countries do not celebrate it at all. So maybe plan a trip to Bolivia over Valentine’s Day to get away?! Just kidding. I mean that is an option… But it can be helpful to remember that this is simply another date and the amount of significance attached to it is subjective.
What to do about living through the 14th in “singledom”?
Choose how or if you want to celebrate this date at all and let yourself be distracted by other things. Remember that distractions and celebrating in other ways will only go so far. It’s okay to have feelings of sadness, confusion, etc. It’s okay to be sad and wish you had a companion and delight in being unattached. Though those seem opposite and contradictory they often go hand in hand.
Being single in a world that praises companionship and making families can be difficult especially with reminders like Valentine’s day. Take this day in stride. It’s normal to feel a bit of a roller coaster of emotions, like when you find yourself feeling like a badass and then scared you will be alone forever, that’s a bit extreme but it’s also not abnormal.
I look forward to hearing from you and hope this helps you as you take your own powerful and transformative journey. Per usual take what fits for you, leave what does not, and join me next time. Until then let’s stay social 
