Get to know how to step on your partner’s gas pedal with those sex tips.
Sex is an important part of a relationship. Oftentimes there is a lust stage in relationships where sex is easy and it seems like you are on fire for each other. The need and desire to be ravaged is palpable. This is a wonderful phase but it is also a phase which means that it won’t last forever. It is not sustainable and therefore you will see a change in sex with your partner. This does not mean the end of your relationship! As the new-ness of the relationship dies, there is space for other things to grow such as greater companionship, deeper connections and increased vulnerability.
For those of you still in mourning of the “lust phase”, grieve it. It is a loss of a time that often felt effortless and easy. Know that the ending of this phase is normal and a typical progression of long-term relationships.
What are gas pedals?
Gas pedals are different from four play. They are about what is happening “outside the bedroom” so to speak. How are you and your partner interacting since the last time you had sex? The Gas Pedals are about what’s going on during this “in between” time from the last sexual experience to the next one. Gas Petals help you set up a safe environment where you and your significant other can thrive.
Examples of gas pedals
- Listening to your partner without distractions
- Helping your partner complete tasks
- Giving your partner a hug
- Asking for support
- Including your partner on what you’ve been thinking and feeling
- Making plans for time with others
- Telling your partner one thing you like about them
- Thanking your partner for what they’ve done/how they’ve acted
- Spending time on your own doing things you like regularly
- Regulating your emotions
- Asking about your partner’s hobbies
Creating a healthy space for you and your partner to continue to engage in, delight in and feel comfortable with sex takes work and communication. Though there are times when it feels effortless and easy, those times ebb and flow. It’s important to take the time in your relationship to understand your partner’s gas petals. The gas petals allow you to create a safe, understanding and loving environment where sexual experiences can continue.
I look forward to hearing from you and hope this helps you as you take your own powerful and transformative journey. Per usual take what fits for you, leave what does not, and join me next time. Until then let’s stay social 🙂
