There are so many options to choose from regarding couples counseling especially in OKC. It is hard to know if you’ve found the right therapist. that will be a good fit for both you and your partner. In my practice I tell couples about the importance that both of them be able to talk to and work with me. Our work together will be much more successful if each person is able to connect and decide for themselves. Therefore I encourage you to find a therapist that has talked to you and your partner separately. Research shows that 30% of success in session is based on the relationship between client and therapist. Given that this is couples work it is crucial that both of you feel confident in who you are working with.
#1 To see if you vibe with your couples therapist
When you are talking to your couples therapist it is important that you feel heard, like they understand what you are struggling with and that you feel at ease. I strongly encourage you to talk to your couples therapist separately as each of you are different people. It’s important that you are able to connect with this therapist as that will allow both of you to feel empowered and encouraged to attend therapy consistently.
Pro tip: Talk to your couples therapist about any past experiences with therapy and what you found helpful or unhelpful.
#2 To learn about how your therapist works
I know that people often encourage you to ask your therapist questions but this can be easier said than done. The free discovery call is here to give you space to ask any questions. But it is also very likely that you won’t know what to ask especially if couples counseling is new to you. In my practice, I let each partner know what it’s like to work with me, what types of people have resonated with me and the different kinds of techniques they can expect to be part of their journey. It’s important that you know that not all couples counseling is created equal. All of us, couples therapists, have different approaches that we use. The more you reach out to couples therapists the more you will be able to identify possible questions you might want to ask or get clarity on.
Pro Tip: Talk to your therapist about their experience and education about couples counseling. Learn mora about why you need to work with an LMFT for couples counseling here.
#3 To understand what to expect from therapy
It’s also important to know what to expect from couples therapy. In my practice, I let couples know what it will be like to work with me. I tell them things to expect from couples therapy. This includes the length that couples typically work with me and a general idea of the format for couples therapy. I want couple’s that reach out to me to know exactly what they are getting in to. Couples are also informed of what I expect from them. For example: arriving on time for sessions, giving me feedback and being open to doing the work to transform their relationship.
Get ready to take the next step as a Couple
It’s time for you and your spouse to start communicating with more intimacy and less exhaustion. If you are ready to take the next step then book your free discovery call with me. Let me help you uncover the transformative potential of couples counseling when guided by a clear plan and the expertise of the right therapist can help you now, tomorrow and well into your future.
I serve couples online across Oklahoma, including Edmond, OKC, and beyond.
