3 Reasons it’s Time to go to Couples Counseling in Edmond
You and your partner are going more distant. You fight more often than you would like and being able to talk about serious issues just isn’t going well. You’ve silently considered separation or thrown out the threat of leaving when conversations get heated and remain unresolved but you aren’t ready to take that step yet.
You want to be able to “figure it out on your own” after all you two choose each other for a reason. You wonder if couples counseling will even help or if things are even bad enough to attend sessions. I want to help you navigate this space you are in. In this blog, we’ll talk about the 3 ways to know.
#1 You are thinking about Couples Counseling in Edmond
The fact that you are considering and thinking about attending couples is already a sign that it might be what you need. Research shows that couples often take years, about 6 years, to seek counseling after an issue has developed. Those years are plenty of time for resentment, sadness and discouragement to grow roots. Given that couples counseling takes both of you it is hard to make your way into that space because the truth is you and your partner are probably not having the easiest time making decisions together right now.
Since the thought of couples has crossed your mind it is worth getting curious about. Here are a couple of questions to ask yourself:
What’s got you contemplating couples counseling?
What’s been getting in the way of making a call?
#2 The way you two are trying to solve problems isn’t solving them
Every relationship creates patterns of interacting with one another. You may notice that for you talking openly and expressing problems is what comes most naturally or maybe you tend to get quiet and need time before you can communicate. You and your partner may stay angry with each other for some time or maybe you reconnect after a few minutes. There are many different ways to go about it.
However, it is important to notice what kinds of issues you and your partner are able to work through and if there are some that keep getting left behind. Here are a couple of questions to consider:
Do we keep coming back to the same issue/Do I feel the need to keep bringing X issue back up?
Are the items that we haven’t been able to work through have big consequences, like the decision for children, finances, etc.?
#3 The fun meter is low
You may be noticing that the amount of lighthearted fun, positivity and connected times in the relationship are not present often. I can also hear you thinking “that’s it! We just need some more fun in our lives. I can do that [as you start to look up your next adventure.]” Pause for a minute, and ask yourself, am I trying to fix a relationship that more often than not feels negative with tickets to X and passes for Y? Or does increasing the positive occur with ease?
After all it makes sense that a relationship that has more positive and fun interactions is one that we might feel more content in.
I hope this gives you more information as you discern the choice that’s right for you with couples counseling. Keep in mind that couples counseling in Edmond is not a sign of failure, it is taking a proactive step towards a relationship that’s healthier and more connected. Take your time to approach couples counseling delicately stating your concerns and desires about cultivating a relationship you get excited to come home to.
If you are ready to take the next step then book your free discovery call with me. Let me help you uncover the transformative potential of couples counseling when guided by a clear plan and the expertise of the right therapist can help you now, tomorrow and well into your future.
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